Tonight, I was seriously considering shutting this site down for awhile. A friend of mine wrote this for me… and I just had to post it.
LIBBY: (n) (pronounced: Li-bi): 22 year old female from South Carolina.
Her overly-sympathetic ear makes her makes her a great prospective friend to many. Her “Southern Hospitality” personality makes her an inviting conversationalist, leading to a great many people coming to her site, reading her quirky babbles, and seek her out for chatting.
This character trait is a double-edged sword for Libby, as she attracts both the good and the bad people to her site, and ultimately into private messages. Libby’s biggest character flaw, as she would readily admit, is her inassertiveness, or inability to set rigid boundaries. These things are regularly taken advantage of, in the form of marriage proposals, love-at-first-chats, and other such stalkerish activities.
As any female can attest, any showing of kindness to an insecure male can lead to a puppy dog following you around, humping your leg for an extended period of time, sometimes up to years, depending on how weak you are. Libby needs to find a way to weed out these puppy dog types from the start, and prevent more stress upon herself.
If you or anyone you know are of the persuasion of an insecure, lonely male, please STOP and think about what you are doing: Libby is a kind young woman who loves to chat, but her kindness should never be mistaken for weakness — or interest. If only one girl out of 100 talks to you, that doesn’t mean she’s in love with you, it just means the other 99 were not as nice as Libby. She does not love every person whose problems she listens to any more than she loves a complete stranger.
Please think about what you are doing and how you are acting towards Libby, or any other girl in whom are interested. If you think something is amiss, it is probably you. Reexamine your behavior and realize you need not fall in love with the first girl to give you the time of day. Perhaps seek help, and let a professional tell you what I am trying: STOP RUINING IT FOR THE REST OF US.
Too many wonderful, sweet girls are abused for their behavior. Aggressive and insecure men take advantage of the kindness Libby displays. Why do you think there are so few like her? It’s because people like you, he who would spoil a generous heart for his own selfish reasons, frightens the hell out of any girl who refuses to tell you to go fuck yourself.
By now, if you have read this entire thing, you know who you are. If you have not had the pleasure of chatting with Libby, you also know what type you are and what type she is. You know that when you have only been chatting a few days, Libby is not madly in love with you.
Please respect both Libby’s right to privacy, and her right to be friendly with whomever she chooses, without having to fear being stalked.
If you continually attempt to contact Libby (or anyone else), and she does not reply, that is your warning. If you continue to “repeatedly” send “unsolicited” e-mails to Libby, then you ARE, by definition committing an act of cyber stalking and you should stop it immediately.
And if you can’t just let it go, please, please — seek help.